Watch on YouTube: From Post-Grad Virgin to Sex Swinger | Becoming FEARLESS Podcast
Chris went from being a 20-something virgin to a king of “Lifestyle” (swingers) parties with his beautiful girlfriend Holly, who is also a FEARLESS student.
Take a look inside the total life transformation that happens at FEARLESS, as company founder Brian talks to both Chris and Holly about Chris’ progression from a “boy” who girls thought was gay into a “that guy” who (with Holly) gets the party started and is the center of attention at Lifestyle events.
Brian goes into depth with the couple on how FEARLESS helped Chris become confident and masculine, his evolution, meeting Holly, getting into the lifestyle and how it strengthened their relationship. They also discuss the couples’ growth in their career lives: How Chris went from a job he hated to an ideal position that’s allowing him to work on even bigger dreams, and how Holly is finally truly going for it with her passion for painting – stepping into fears and insecurities of her own, committing, and now getting ready for gallery showings. Check out links to Holly’s work below!
FYI: “Popping” as Brian & Chris talk about means going into your head because of fear, anxiety, pain, etc-becoming unconscious, analytical, thinking hard, and/or just not being very present.
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*Impatient-peoples’ guide to this episode*
CHRIS’ JOURNEY
-Chris’ eye-opening first experience with Brian (3:28)
-Why women thought Chris was gay before FEARLESS (6:07)
-How nice, friendly “flirting” can actually be a trap (6:48, 31:00, 34:00)
-Body Language: Why FEARLESS masculinity focuses more internally than physically (9:09)
-Why Chris-and many others-misinterpreted “tension” as a bad thing (11:06)
-GET OUT OF YOUR HEAD! Chris’ first night out w/FEARLESS; learning to relate to women and life emotionally vs analytically (11:53, 18:40)
-“PUAs”: Successful flirting is about being real, not the words; why using lines or routines doesn’t work (13:13)
-Focusing on one thing at a time (20:10)
-“Doing nothing”: Banter and “being funny” can be overrated (21:29)
-FEELING it: Being authentic about nervousness without apology (22:22)
-Holly on sincerity & sexy vulnerability (24:06)
-Strong vulnerability vs needy vulnerability (25:48)
-Being giving: Popular misconceptions (26:38)
-“Nice guys”-why they aren’t authentic (28:15)
-Sexual tension: How Chris found his balls (31:00)
– The new, masculine Chris & not letting others’ expectations be a trap (34:13)
-Chris’ progression on dates (37:00)
THE LIFESTYLE
-Always Be Forward: How Chris & Holly met (39:59)
-Holly & Chris’ first date (44:43)
-The clincher for Holly (48:09)
-Getting comfortable “in the tension” and not plowing over people (49:21)
-The “Lifestyle” and how it deepened their connection (50:46)
-Being the center of attention at Lifestyle parties (52:48, 1:11:40)
-Being real & true to your human nature in relationships (53:50)
-“The Lifestyle” community is bigger than you think (58:29)
CAREER
-How FEARLESS & “Lifestyle” principles relate to your career (59:37)
-Chris’ best job ever & working on bigger dreams (1:01:30)
-How FEARLESS is really about success in all areas (1:03:27)
-Holly’s perfectionism & moving forward w/her painting (1:04:08)
-Holly’s mindset shift around showing people her work (1:07:10)
-Change your life by making being uncomfortable a habit (1:07:47)
IN CLOSING
-Talking to EVERYONE at the bar (1:08:35)
-Thinking is overrated & often a hindrance (1:10:00)
-Goals vs Expectations (1:11:00)
Holly’s Art
Instagram: @openheart.holly
http://www.openheartart.org/
http://openhart.deviantart.com
Chris’ website
http://www.careerconservatory.com
Resources
-“No More Mr Nice Guy” by Dr. Robert Glover: http://amzn.to/1bLk5En
-“What Women Really Want in Bed” (Book that Holly and Chris mentioned): http://amzn.to/1yu3vO6
photo credit: https://creativecommons.org/licenses/…
http://www.flickr.com/photos/54862197…
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