In this video, we’ll talk about why women test men so you can change your mindsets around women’s tests and actually have FUN with the flirtation that tests often are, and then the beautiful Lily and I will demonstrate in-depth how to better handle and how to pass women’s tests.
This is part 3 of our 4-part demonstration series on connecting with women. Get caught up here:
How To Make A Connection With A Woman (Part 1)
Sexual Tension: How to Create Chemistry with a Woman (part 2)
So why do women test men? There are three primary reasons:
1 – Women will sometimes test men where they’re insecure. (We as men do this, too.)
Usually this is something women test men on in relationships. They want to be assured that you still care because they’re feeling insecure in that moment.
A couple examples of this:
-Putting on jeans and talking about how she looks “fat”
-Talking about how pretty other women you know or are around are
How you handle this kind of test is about staying grounded and non-reactive. It’s not always about validating her by saying things like “No! You look so sexy in those jeans!!” It could be the opposite of that, depending on the situation. You have to be in tune with where she’s at emotionally, but it might be teasing her a little, saying something like “Oh god. You look so big. We need to do something about that.” (Said with a clear sarcastic, teasing tone of voice.) Lily and I go into this a little more in the video.
2 – Women will test men where the man is insecure.
If a woman sees an insecurity in you, she might try to be sensitive to and encourage you around it at first, but if she doesn’t see you growing out of it, she’s probably gonna start pushing on you there. She may get a little irritated or annoyed and poke at you there. How you pass this test from a woman is to do something about it, actively work on it…and just own it or stand up to her about it. Much more on this in the video.
3 – Women will test men just to get turned on!
This test from a woman is really just flirting – it’s creating sexual tension and chemistry. This is like kids flirting by throwing sand at each other. An example of this might be her walking or dancing sultry and seductively around you, but then you go to kiss her and she pulls away a little bit, and then she looks at you again. It’s a little dance she does to see how you respond. You pass this test by relaxing, staying connected and open to her, and continuing to play with her.
This is just the tip of the iceberg. Lily and I go into more depth on all of these and then spend a lot of time demonstrating how to pass women’s tests in the video.
Enjoy!
Watch Part 4: Sharing Emotions: How to Communicate with Women Better
