Being confidently vulnerable (not from a needy place) is one of the most attractive and confident things you can do with women.
Being completely stoic and unemotional isn’t the most confident way of being. That actually likely comes from avoiding – being afraid of – emotion and vulnerability. It’s the man who isn’t afraid of being vulnerable and is confident enough to show that vulnerability to women (and all people) who is deadly attractive to women. He’s also the kind of guy who’s the most successful at connecting with people in general and building success in career, networking, and business relationships as well.
Dating and PUA (pickup artist) companies often teach an “alpha” way of being that avoids vulnerability in favor of this macho and/or aggressive attitude, but that’s still coming from fear and insecurity – it’s not truly confident. It’s the man who is confident enough – in himself, indifferent to outcome, and not seeking validation – to show his vulnerability * from those places * who is the most authentic, powerful, and attractive of all.
But if it comes from a needy place-a “please like/care for/fix me” place, that’s not confident or attractive to women. You’ve got to come from a place of “Here’s how I feel and what I’m going through and I can handle it-I’m not looking for validation.”
And that’s where your power comes into play-you can handle your vulnerability and have personal power to stay on course, stay on your purpose and intentions…even when you run into storms, challenges, or get thrown off course temporarily. You just get back on course. Over and over.
Related
How to Build Confidence Meeting & Approaching Women – Tension Journal | Inside FEARLESS
Stop Being a Pushover – Women Don’t Want Your Power | Inside FEARLESS
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