A lot of us are quick to self-reject. Learning to spot the difference between when a woman is truly rejecting you and when her behavior is actually part of flirting can help shift your interactions with women. And in this video, you’ll learn two practices to help get you over your fear of rejection from a girl.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in May 2016. The post has been updated while the video is in its originally-published form.
Trying to get better at meeting women while avoiding ever getting rejected is just not realistic. As Brian talks about in the video, the better you are at dealing with rejection, the better you’ll be with women and dating.
First of all, the better you are at letting go of rejections while still feeling good about yourself, the more free, authentic, confident – the more your true self – you’ll be when meeting women because you won’t be as worried about “messing up” or getting rejected.
Women reject for a lot of reasons. Sometimes, of course, they’re rejecting you because they’re really just not interested. That’s when they’ll be cold and shut off.
But a lot of the time, when your mind is rapidly jumping to the conclusion that a girl is rejecting you, she may actually be just flirting with you, nervous herself (It’s true! Women get nervous just like men!), or feeling you out a bit to see how solid you are as a man.
It’s all about subcommunication and subtleties, which Brian talks about in the video.
How to Get Over Fear of Rejection from a Girl – Two Strategies
1- Go out and approach women with the purpose of getting rejected.
Go up to women in bars for a few nights – 10 repetitions at a time would be great, but pick a number you can handle and be consistent practicing. and be totally honest and vulnerable. Tell them something like “Hey. I’m working on my fear of rejection, so I’m saying ‘Hi’ to beautiful women…can you do me a huge favor and reject me?” You’ll get a myriad of responses, but you can start to lighten up and get over your fear of rejection from a girl pretty quickly practicing this.
2- Be totally honest without asking them to reject you.
“Hi. I saw you from over there and you’re so cute you make me nervous, and I’m working on my fear of rejection so I wanted to come say ‘Hi.’ My name is ____.” Brian provides a few other examples in the video. The more honest and vulnerable you can be WITHOUT being attached to her validating you or making you feel good for it, the easier you’ll start to get over your fear of rejection, you’ll realize that sometimes you were assuming women didn’t like you too quickly, and the more open to you women will be.
Related:
How to be Attractive & Confident with Women – Vulnerability IS Confidence | Inside FEARLESS #20
Getting Past Rejection and Failure with Women – Part 1 (Alumni Teachings)
Why Women Test Men and How to Pass Their Tests
How To Be More Attractive to Women by Developing Your Indifference to Outcome
