How do you know if she’s a keeper, or even “the one”? Knowing if the woman you’re dating is relationship or marriage material is really about YOU.
Editor’s Note: This video was originally published in June 2016. The written portion of the post has been updated.
The real question is whether you yourself are a keeper. (Or at least the man you’re currently showing up as.)
If you pair two miserable people together, it’s not rocket science to figure out what kind of relationship you’re likely to create out of that. The same can be said for what happens when two genuinely happy people form a couple.
So along with all the internal work (loving yourself, confidence, being real vs being a “nice guy”, grounding, feeling, tension, etc) we talk about all the time at FEARLESS, another important thing to get really honest with yourself on is whether you actually love women. If you have a lot of angst and resentment built up towards women, you’re not likely to find and attract happy, healthy women who really love men.
If there’s any kind of negative pattern in the types of women you attract and connect with, it’s about you. You may not like to hear that, but it’s true.
Blaming women or harboring resentment against them for the state of your dating life and relationships is victim mentality that distracts you from facing (and working through) how you truly feel yourself and from your shortcomings that are pushing quality women away. That stuff needs to be worked through so that you can have a real love for women that’s not based on outcomes or validation.
The next piece is knowing what you want in a woman. As Brian suggests in the video, make a long lisy of those things, along with a list of what you don’t want in a woman.
Then you need to ask yourself who you’re being as a man in relationship to what you say you want in a woman. Are you a complement to those qualities, behaviors, and lifestyle?
Finally, as Brian discusses in more detail in the video, start looking at and learning from healthy couples and relationships that have lasted. For example: Magazine The secret to a long-lasting marriage
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