There are certain qualities that a man can exhibit that are universally attractive to women. Even if a man is not a woman’s particular “type,” if he has cultivated these qualities she will experience “turn-on” when in his presence. This mini-series is a primer to the 8 Qualities that I teach in depth during our live events.
If you’ve missed either of the first two qualities, catch up here: #1 – Grounding #2 – Tension
Being Decisive – What Is It / What Do I Mean?
Think and Grow Rich author Napoleon Hill studied 500 of the world’s most successful people and found that the most successful people in the world were the most decisive. They make decisions quickly and change their minds slowly, if ever at all. A lot of top business leaders also know that some decisions are a waste of their time and energy. They will actually structure their lives so they make less “non-critical” decisions so they have more mental and emotional capacity available to push their businesses forward. Two examples of this are Mark Zuckerberg and Steve Jobs wearing the same outfit every day.
Why It’s Important
Decisive people get the most results. Think about it: If you are avoiding a decision or spending a ton of time analyzing every possible angle and pitfall of the decision over and over, then you are remaining in an indecisive and unsure energy. This is a waste of energy since it’s not doing anything other than building up more anxiety.
Not only that, but it’s also a waste of our most valuable resource: time. Once you finally make a decision, it may not be firm and you’re likely to backslide into to that indecisive energy. You’re likely to then change your mind quickly, over and over, going nowhere. Ultimately, it’s a sign that you’re not confident to set the course of your own direction as a man.
Women are looking for men that are powerful leaders. That doesn’t mean you have to be some famous world-leader, but a leader but in your own life. If you are unable to make decisions, you won’t move forward – whether it’s towards victory or even failure. By remaining indecisive, you’re robbing yourself of the glory of victory or of the powerful lesson contained in each failure.
A space shuttle is off course most of the time. It’s just making tons of little course corrections as it goes. But if NASA were afraid of not having the course perfectly mapped out accounting for every single possible scenario in space before launching the shuttle, it’d never leave the ground. You must make decisions and be willing to fail to get off the launchpad and move forward.
How To Do It / Develop It
Start Making Decisions.
Get yourself into action and begin making decisions. It’s better to be crashing and burning and LEARNING than it is to sit in limbo. Energize yourself by making smaller decisions, and build up to the larger ones. Making a “quick” decision doesn’t always mean lightning fast, but it doesn’t mean six months, either.
Create a process for yourself to become sure in your path. I don’t want any emails after this article from guys who read this and then quit their jobs. That might be the right move, but do check in with yourself and life path first.
I do have one caveat I use in my own decision-making process. It’s “does this decision serve me and the other person?” You want to consider other people in your process. (That’s what great leaders do.) Here’s an example: telling a beautiful woman she’s beautiful serves both of you. You get to give a gift, she gets to receive a gift. As long as you’re not trying to manipulate or hide something, you’re being honest and real. Remember, honesty is a huge aphrodisiac.
The next quality is “Listening & Feeling” – come explore that one a little with me here.
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