During your self-development growth pursuit, you may reach plateaus where it seems your progress has stalled. Today, I go over the top 5 reasons why your self-development growth might not be going as fast as you’d like.
Brief Summary of 5 Reasons Your Self-Development Growth May Be Stalled or Slow:
1 – Overanalyzing
Being overly analytical is a common problem for people who are working on themselves in personal development…and even people just going through their daily life. First, overanalyzing tends to fabricate problems, storylines and narratives in your life, anxiety, and etc undesirable things out of thin air. (You’re making them up in your head…like when you narrate a conversation you think your friends, women, or bosses are having about you.) Second, if there are heavy emotions (ie: grief, fears or insecurities) attached to the thoughts, beliefs, or etc that you’re analyzing, analyzing the problem isn’t going to fix that. Your emotions are stored in the body, and you need to slow your analytical mind down and allow yourself to really feel the emotions inside you and use mindfulness tools like meditation or Sedona Method to let it go. Definitely watch the video for more on overanalyzing and solutions for it.
2 – Being in Denial…and Faking Positive Thinking
The problem with positive thinking is that often people use it to just deny how they really feel. But that doesn’t actually make your true feelings, beliefs, fears, or insecurities go away. Saying “I’m awesome, really successful, and great with women!” when you don’t believe that at all just stuffs down how you really feel to simmer. That’s why you see those people who are obsessed with personal growth who have weird, creepy smiles and maybe seem a little bit crazy. It’s because they’re telling themselves and trying to project one thing but actually feel the opposite deep down. Again, the solution is getting more in touch with your body, true emotions, and how you really feel, and then learning to let them go. (Read more on Positive Thinking here.)
3 – Avoidance
Almost everyone does this one. Grabbing a beer after work all the time, going home and numbing out to Netflix or social media scrolling every night…numbing out with anything avoid feeling how you really feel about yourself in silence, and how you feel about your life. More on this in the video.
4 – Drama! Overdramatizing Your Life
You may think you “hate drama”…but how much drama is there in your daily life? How emotionally stable and grounded are you? Do you have a lot of conflict – big or small – in your life? If you find a lot of (little or big) drama in your life or people ever accuse you of being dramatic, there’s probably a subconscious part of you that likes drama. Dropping this can be a tough one because it does tend to be so subconscious. In Intensives, I sometimes have to have everyone stop in the room giving a dramatic client attention for a while…because getting attention is what it’s really about. So when you get emotional around other people, just try to notice and catch yourself if there’s part of you that really just wants the attention the drama is getting you.
5 – Your Health
What are you eating? What’s your stimulant intake like? Do you have other health issues? When you’re not taking care of your body or taking health issues seriously, that can seriously slow down your self-development growth.
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