One of the things I like to do with both students and here on the website is to deconstruct a lot of the beliefs and rules created both by society and dating “experts.”
“Never text her right after you get her number!”
“You need to be doing more talking than her at first.” (That’s an old “pickup artist” one.)
“Don’t ask boring questions!”
…Nope, even that last one isn’t true.
The thing is, if you’re turned on by her – you really allow yourself to feel that and not hide it from her – and you set the tone early that you’re there because you think she’s sexy, the whole conversation and connection can take on this flirty, sexual tension-filled vibe.
So then even if you’re asking her “What do you do?” and that kind of stuff, you’re actually interested in the answer, and the way you look into her eyes and the way you’re speaking will start to take on a totally different quality.
You’ll be talking about stereotypically “boring” stuff that she may indeed get asked too often by other men, but there will be a whole undertone of flirting and sexuality to it when you talk to her about it.
You will be having an entirely different conversation with her underneath the words.
That’s just one of endless examples.
So I want to further challenge some ways you might be thinking, or beliefs you might have bought into about the dating game:
-How to tell if a woman likes you
-The fact that you can be shy or occasionally rendered speechless and still be very, very attractive to women
-and the question you’re asking yourself when you start talking to a girl
The Key to Telling if a Woman Likes You
In this video, I’ll teach you about the subtleties of “leaning in.” It’s an idea a lot of people in the dating community talk about in terms of knowing how “into you” a woman is, but many oversimplify or make too tight (and analytical) of a definition for it.
Don’t Have Anything To Say to a Girl? Do This…
Do you ever struggle with what to say to a woman? …I know, I know, “Duh,” right? It’s something we’ve all been challenged by, and it plagues many men for years…even decades. In this video, I interview one of my new coaches, Anthony, who is known by many of us in the FEARLESS Family for being shy and simultaneously killing it with women!
Anthony has really embraced his shyness and moments of embarrassment around women in a way that women are really drawn to. We’ll talk about that in this video, and one story in particular that demonstrates one way you can handle it when you don’t have anything to say.
Enjoy!
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