A lot of men these days get jaded as they get “older” (this makes me laugh because guys in their 30s and 40s tell me “I’m not young anymore”, but you’ve got SO much time ahead of you still!) and see friends and family members getting married and settling down. They feel like “all the good ones are taken” … Hell, that’s a universal gripe from both sexes. It’s just a ridiculous idea, though. There are nearly 3.8 Billion women on the planet today. There are plenty of “good ones” and great ones out there for you. I’d even confidently say that for all intents and purposes, there’s an endless supply of great women you, yes you, can meet.
But that starts with developing the right attitudes. What you focus on expands. If you choose to believe things like “most women suck,” “they’re all taken,” and “the good-looking, cool ones are never attracted to me,” then your brain will go to work picking up on everything it can to prove you right…while missing most or all data to the contrary.
You just don’t even see it, because you’re focused on “See? Another bitch.”
“See? She didn’t like me, as usual.”
Just consider the mental state that puts you in when you do have the opportunity to interact with a cool girl who’s interested in you. If you even pick up on the opportunity in the first place, how do you think your confidence and openness to her are likely to be? Piss poor.
So it’s about forming good beliefs and acknowledging things like yes, there are shitty women out there, and that yes, you might still have work to do on your confidence and attractiveness, but then focusing your mind on finding all the cool ones who are interested in or intrigued by you.
And then you have to go out and practice finding and meeting them. So let’s give you some tools to do that
How to Work on Your Approach Anxiety
That fear of approaching and breaking the ice with women can be a big sticking point for a lot of men. In the video below, we’ll talk about some simple practices you can start using TONIGHT to build your confidence to talk to women everywhere.
Attracting Women & Expectancy
This is one of those shifts that can be really big for guys – and it can help your fear of approaching women, too. Like I talked about above, what you focus on expands. When you start expecting women to be attracted to you, your whole world view can start to shift. You have to build, truly feel, and believe it – not just “positive think” it – but expectancy is a FEARLESS principle that is very important throughout your life.
Again, start to look for women being interested in you. Start to notice it more. Then start to expect it.
How to Meet & Attract Great Women
Like I talked about above, if you have a lot of resentment towards women – even buried down deep – it’s going to be hard to pick out all the awesome ones who REALLY, LOVE men…and you’re not going to attract them. You’re going to find and attract the ones who have issues and resentment, themselves. So in the following video, I’ll present you with a better reality and teach you about shifting into that, so you can move towards meeting great women everywhere.
Take this stuff in, but don’t overthink it. Just get out there this weekend, start interacting with women, and look for little signs they’re interested.
