Bad boys and Assholes. What’s the difference, and why do women like both bad boys and assholes more than “nice guys?” Believe it or not, both assholes and bad boys are more authentic than supposed “nice guys,” but there’s an even sexier alternative.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in August 2016.
Bad boys and assholes are pretty similar and they both come from the space of being a “first stage man” (see “related videos” section for more on the three stages of masculinity), but there are some slight differences.
First stage men have old-school attitudes (especially with women) like: “my way or the highway,” or “This is how it is. This is my house. I’m gonna take care of you and make the decisions.”
The bad boy just doesn’t give a fuck. He’s kind of-sometimes very-selfish, but his directness and honesty make him attractive. Women can trust that he’s saying what’s on his mind and what he really believes. He’s not afraid of rejection or losing them, so he doesn’t bullshit women. When he shows affection or desire for her, it means more because he’s not necessarily easy to win over and is selective about showing his feelings. He epitomizes old school masculinity. One example of the “bad boy” stereotype is the biker.
Assholes might be more controlling and leading. Maybe a CEO or Entrepreneur. Also cavalier and maybe a little more egotistical. Still often very attractive because he’s going after what he wants, making things happen, and not afraid to offend or even step on some people’s toes-so again, at least he’s being authentic. Women also tend to be attracted to his leadership skills and tendencies.
Both the bad boy and the asshole are usually more attractive to women than the Second Stage Man-the “nice guy.” Yes, he is more evolved than first stage men because he’s developed his feminine side, isn’t afraid to access that, and has developed more emotional intelligence and awareness…but, unfortunately, he’s usually not being real with women. (Again, see the “Related Videos) section for more on the stages of masculinity.
The most attractive man is the Third Stage Man who’s – in a nutshell – developed and accesses his feminine but still has a strong sense of masculinity, leadership, authenticity, and what he wants, what she wants, and what’s best for the relationship (whatever kind of relationship it is) between himself and a woman. He’s also very aware and connected-both to himself and to her and how she’s feeling. He’s the sexiest kind of man of all.
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