What does being confident *authentically* in daily life look like, and how does being vulnerable factor into that? Intimacy expert Allana Pratt and Brian discuss the subtleties of how we present ourselves and why stepping into more vulnerability expands your self-confidence, happiness, and connection skills.
Editor’s Note: This video was originally published in June 2016.
Watch the full episode: Building Great Relationships & Self-love – Allana Pratt | Becoming Fearless Ep 12
As David Hawkins talks about in Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender (we get a small commission when you buy the book through that link), most people, consciously and subconsciously, live their entire daily lives – minute to minute and even second to second, sometimes – defending against the potential judgments of others. Defending against what other people think. Defending against vulnerability.
But as we often talk about here at FEARLESS and as Allanna and Brian allude to in the video, being willing to be vulnerable and share your vulnerabilities with people is the strongest form of confidence and power. Think about it: Does someone who’s terrified of and extremely attached to what people think of them freely admit to a stranger or even a casual acquaintance that they’re nervous or share other vulnerable things with those people? No! They try their best to hide that stuff from people. It takes confidence to freely share your vulnerability.
So, as Brian talks about in the video, the more you surrender your defenses and find the strength to be more and more vulnerable in front of people, the more true courage, confidence, and strength you’re creating within yourself.
So start to notice, as Brian discusses, how much are you trying to be a certain type of person for everybody else vs how much you are truly being who and how you really want to be – without worries about what people will think – in every moment?
Watch Allanna and Brian’s full discussion here: Building Great Relationships & Self-love – Allana Pratt | Becoming Fearless Ep 12
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