Complimenting women and overcoming fear of talking to women can be hard for many men. In this video, I’ll give you some specific exercises to help overcome your fears around talking to women and giving compliments.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in December 2017.
This week’s video answers a question from one of our viewers who is having a hard time letting go of the fear of how women will react to his compliments.
Akshay writes:
Hey Brian, when I’m walking on the street and doing things like complimenting women and smiling at them, I really want to let go and make it genuine, but I’m afraid that somehow the woman will be angry or even disgusted that I did that. I think it’s coming from low self esteem. For example if I see a woman walking by, I try to smile but sometimes I’m intimidated and get nervous that she won’t like my gesture of smiling.
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Suggested Practice Plan:
-Releasing/meditation (see the first video in the “Related” section below)
-Say hello to 5-10 women in two minutes. (Set the timer on your phone.)
-Use allowing/releasing meditative process for 5-10 minutes on whatever emotions you just stirred up when doing the hellos.
-Ideally, repeat for 3-6 rounds per day
-As you’re ready, amp it up to giving women compliments, then asking questions, then having short conversations
-Start to do rounds of 5 stops (ask a quick question) in 3 minutes followed by immediate allowing/releasing
-Journal all your progress for a month and report how you’re doing in the comments
Give yourself time and patience to grow, and be as detailed as you can with journaling. Don’t discount tiny little victories and boosts in confidence. The better your journaling and appreciation of the small wins, the more growth you’ll see, which will motivate you and build up your confidence to grow even more…and more easily.
Related
Self-esteem Meditation Brian mentioned in the video:
The Real Problem With Self Esteem and How To Get Past It
How to Approach a Woman in Public – Fear of Being Seen | Fearless Q&A
How to Lead & Manage Conversations with Women | Fearless Q&A
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