There’s a big difference between being confident vulnerability vs being needy, and it can be the key to attracting women. Most guys think that they need to show off how confident they are, but this can actually backfire. Women are drawn to genuine confidence, not cockiness.
The key is to show confident vulnerability instead of being needy. When you’re vulnerable, you’re open and honest about your feelings. This makes you more attractive because it shows that you’re human and that you have weaknesses just like everyone else. Being needy, on the other hand, is unattractive because it comes across as desperate and manipulative. If you want to attract women, learn how to be confident without being cocky. And learn how to be vulnerable without being needy.
Make no mistake: True vulnerability is a huge strength. It could be argued that being vulnerable is THE biggest show of genuine confidence for men and their masculinity when there is so much less permission and support in society for men to be vulnerable and show their emotions than women.
But as we always say at FEARLESS, it’s all about the energy. Sometimes the differences can be obvious or very subtle, but women especially can pick up on these subtleties very quickly. Whether she knows it consciously or just feels something’s “off,” a guy seeking validation or trying to get her to like him with his vulnerability is going to be a turn-off.
The more confident the woman, the more likely that energy (or vibe) is going to land you in the friend zone-at best.
But if you really own your vulnerability and don’t make it about getting validated, it becomes incredibly attractive because you’re actually being real vs playing games.
Ask yourself, am I trying to get her to like me-or worse, feel bad for me and make me feel better by showing me affection (of one kind or another)? Am I saying (whatever) with a vibe of self-validation and free of needing anything in return?
Becoming less needy and seeking validation externally is a process that takes time and effort, but it’s worth it. The more conscious you become of your own confident vulnerability and get out of the needy behavior, the easier it will be to shift gears.
And when you do finally make the change, you’ll find that you not only feel better about yourself internally. But you’ll also start to attract people – women in particular – who are drawn to confident men. What have been your experiences practicing confident vulnerability?
We encourage you to keep exploring your vulnerability and working on becoming a more confident man. Be sure to check out the Daily Disruption System and get to the core of why you think and operate the way you do.
