True vulnerability is not needy or weak. It’s actually the most powerful display of confidence there is. In this video, Ruwan Meepagala from “Masculine Underground” and FEARLESS founder Brian Begin discuss what confident, attractive vulnerability looks like as opposed to needy, fake vulnerability in this clip from a Becoming FEARLESS episode.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in May 2016.
Ruwan Meepagala (RuwanMeepagala.com) is a sex, relationships, and creativity coach for men and women – his written work has appeared in numerous publications, including Psychology Today, AskMen.com, The Good Men Project, and Orgasm Daily.
A lot of men associate vulnerability with weakness. But what takes more courage and confidence than admitting and discussing things you feel vulnerable about?
In the video, Ruwan talks about the vulnerability of sharing his erectile dysfunction issues with women, and how freeing it was in spite of the apprehension around sharing it.
It’s being real, authentic, and confident…when it comes from the right place. Where “being vulnerable” goes wrong is if you’re doing it to get validation or another result because you think “it works.” That is needy and weak, and, as Ruwan explains in the video, another facade or wall.
When it’s something that needs to come out of you, or when it’s you just expressing “This is me,” without needing a result, that’s when it’s powerful.
Anything that’s holding you back socially is related to some form of guilt or shame, and sharing those things can help you go free.
Watch the full episode: Meet & Attract Women the Most Natural Way: Trust your Gut – Ruwan Meepagala | Becoming FEARLESS (Episode 9)
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