How maintaining a “Confidence Journal” aka “Tension Journal” can change your life all by itself.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in September 2018.
In this clip from The Fearless Man Live 2-day seminar, Brian shares discuss how he used the “Confidence Journal” to change his life and how you can use it to grow your confidence and tension skills.
You’ll learn how to:
-Do more and more activities that you find difficult
-Reduce anxiety in the moment when you resist doing something
One attendee of an old free event even told Brian this exercise alone changed his life.
Directions for the Confidence Journal
–Get a real, physical journal. It’s much more powerful to physically write in a journal vs typing on a phone, and in your phone, notes are likely to get lost and forgotten about, along with the entire exercise. Brian likes using pocket Moleskine journals, like this one.
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–Throughout your day, start writing down things that scare you. It can be big things, or tiny, seemingly innocuous things.
–Write down a number, from 1-10, for how much tension (fear, anxiety, etc) each causes.
-Take an action towards that scary thing. If talking to a beautiful woman you come across is a 10 for you, find something that’s more like a 6-7. ie: Sitting down next to her, smiling at her, or a simple “hello” with no further conversation. Only do what’s a little bit beyond your comfort zone, and build up from there. Don’t try to take gigantic leaps.
–Be consistent. This is the most important piece. Do at least 5 per day. More is great, but do what you can be consistent with.
–Write down what you learned from each experience.
–Review your journal before you go to bed every night.
-Continue expanding your comfort zone in all areas using this process!
In the video, Brian also talks about incorporating the “Hellos” exercise into your Confidence Journal. You can read more about that exercise here: Build Your Confidence by Saying Hello to 100 Strangers
And don’t forget to check out The Fearless Man Live Seminar for yourself. We even throw in an evening of in-field coaching, which most seminars don’t do for the general admission price. So stop hesitating on moving towards being the man you want to be, and learn about the event now.
