In this video, I’ll discuss why a viewer gets depressed or uninterested right before first dates that they are initially excited about. It’s about the tension and fear of the date getting bigger and feeling more real as the date gets closer.
When you first ask a girl out on a date or make plans for the date, it can be exciting. But excitement actually inherently involves an element of fear or anxiety. Think about it – if you’re getting an amazing massage, are you “excited” during the massage? No, you’re probably more in a state of relaxed joy and pleasure. Another example would be a vacation on a beautiful, warm, sunny beach. You may be “excited” leading up to the vacation, but once you’re in the middle of it on that beach with a cocktail in your hand, that excitement fades away into pure, relaxed enjoyment.
This doesn’t mean that being “excited” is wrong or bad – fear can be a fun, very healthy, positive thing – but there is an element of fear within excitement.
So getting back to the date, as the date gets closer, this viewer (and many men..and women) feels more of that fear (of rejection or failure with the woman he’s going out with) building up and the enjoyment part of the excitement is suffocated.
I’ll also go into the process for dealing with these emotions.
