In part 3 of our series on Getting Past Rejection and Failure with Women, Anthony discusses the realizations he had while getting “rejected” by women and how he got 5 “instant dates” with women on the street one day.
In case you missed it:
Getting Past Rejection and Failure with Women – Part 1
Getting Past Rejection and Failure with Women – Part 2
At a free, quarterly “FEARLESS Family Gathering” for alumni and current students, Anthony and I discuss his growth process and changing his relationship to rejection and failure with women:
-How, often, “it’s going to be awkward” at first when you approach a woman, why that’s ok, and dealing with that awkwardness.
-Speaking your truth to women and not worrying about what to say to women.
-How to make complimenting women work really well.
-Getting 5 “Instant” Dates with women on the street one day. (An Instant Date is when you meet someone and take them on a mini-date right away, within the same interaction.)
-Dealing with and changing your attitude around firm rejections from women.
-And more!
Sometimes, if not a lot of the time, it’s just going to be awkward at first when you approach a woman you don’t know? Why? There are lots of reasons:
-Too many of us just don’t talk to people we don’t know enough in our society. Sometimes it can seem like a rule NOT to socialize and start conversations with people we don’t know. But that “rule” is bs – if you don’t buy into it, and you’re ok with people getting surprised or weird for a moment and you can relax and stay open to them while they process you, many of them will open up to you.
-You don’t know what’s going on in her life, her day, her hour, or that minute. Maybe she just got some bad news, maybe she’s in the midst of a big argument with someone close to her, maybe she’s stressed out or late, maybe another guy who approached her earlier in the day (or even right before you saw her) weirded her out. Maybe she’s shy or insecure, or feelng that way at that moment. Again, the more relaxed, open, and non-reactive you are to her initial reaction to you, the better.
-You’re approaching a woman, period. Initiating flirting should be accompanied by some degree of tension. And awkwardness is a form of tension…that, if handled correctly, can lead to sexual tension and turn-on.
-Women do have real concerns for safety and being ready to turn away men they’re not interested in. Again, relaxing and staying open and grounded is the key.
That’s just some of the things off the top of my head. The thing is, so many men think women are rejecting them when it’s just initial awkwardness. Anthony is a great example of learning to handle that and turn what you see as a rejection into a connection.
Enjoy!
Check out Anthony’s video “Don’t Have Anything To Say to a Girl? Do This…”
