This is a guided reveal (our twist on releasing) from a recent webinar where Brian Begin guides you through welcoming, revealing, and releasing on the attractive woman you want to date.
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New to Revealing and Releasing? Below, we’ve included a guide to basic releasing that you can use when heavy or uncomfortable emotions come up throughout your life. Truly letting go is a huge piece of going free socially, uncovering (revealing) and connecting with your natural confidence that’s underneath your insecurities, ego-defense mechanisms, and past traumas, and being able to connect deeply with the women of your dreams and everyone else in your life…as well as removing barriers to goals and fulfillment in any other area of your life.
A basic release to let go of heavy emotions and uncover more of your innately confident, courageous, socially-free self:
Identify the Feeling
What’s a challenge or area where you doubt yourself?
Now, what’s the feeling that comes up as you consider this issue?
Ie: Sadness, fear, hopelessness, anxiety, anger, not good enough. Or even just “uncomfortable,” or “tense,” if you can’t yet find the feeling or emotion. There’s no right answer – it’s what’s true for you and what comes up for you in the moment.
Welcome it
Welcoming, or allowing is what releasing or letting go is actually all about: Removing your resistance to your feelings so they no longer have a hold on you. We’ll go into this in more depth in future posts, and I’ve probably talked about it in videos around the site, but for now just trust me that welcoming is the big key. It’s facing what’s really there, unlike forcing positive thinking.
Ask yourself: Could I welcome this feeling?
Allow yourself to feel what’s there as fully as you can. If it’s too much at first, that’s ok. Just welcome it as much as you can.
What does it feel like? Anger could manifest as tension in your chest, or sadness as tightness or a ball in your throat. Or general tightness or stiffness.
If you’re having a lot of trouble with identifying these feelings, you’re probably in some level of apathy. See if this video and blog post describing apathy resonate.
Sometimes, just by welcoming, the feeling releases on its own.
Ask Yourself the Three Questions
The key here is answering from your heart, not your head, and being very honest with yourself. The more honest and vulnerable you can be throughout this process, the more powerful it is. Trust your gut answer.
- Could I let this feeling go? (Yes or no.)
- Would I let it go? (Yes or no.)
- When?
Answering “no” is ok and on its own can be a powerful part of healing and to start believing in yourself. Sometimes, the feeling releases anyway, or because you were honest with yourself and stopped resisting how you really feel. Yes, that can actually result in you letting it go.
If thoughts about “why” you can’t let something go start distracting you, return your attention to your heart, quiet your mind, and refocus on the feeling.
Repeat
Whether you get an immediate “yes” and releases or not, feelings often have many layers or aspects to them. Some may go quickly and you’re done with it, but others will take a few, and sometimes many go-arounds.
Appreciate
This is an important piece that’s often missed.
Welcome the better feelings caused by the release – even if “just” 1% – or a fraction of 1% – of the feelings released, that’s progress and you feeling a little better. Success and growth throughout life is largely about tiny improvements, compounded over time. The more you allow yourself to celebrate those, the more attuned you’ll be to getting more improvement, and to really start believing in yourself.
And the appreciation will make you feel better…which is what this is all about! This is a very important part of cultivating more trust and belief in yourself.
Take a moment to sit in and embrace and welcome the better or lighter feeling you’ve created. Congratulate yourself for the work you just did on yourself. Feel it in your body.
Welcome a little more confidence and belief in yourself, and in your ability to change and grow. Even if it’s just a fraction of 1%.
Congratulate yourself for your honesty and vulnerability with yourself – especially if you allowed yourself to say “no”! Even this can help you start believing in yourself.
The Feelings Don’t “Come Back”
Sometimes, clients will tell me that something they’ve released on “came back.” I don’t want you to think about it this way – You did let go of something for good, but as we talked about above, many of our feelings and emotions have multiple layers to them. So when more, similar feelings come up, you’re welcoming and facing more of what’s there. You’re ready for more and you’re progressing.
Welcome Your Growing Ability to Start Believing in Yourself
Then really spend some time welcoming your belief and confidence in yourself. Don’t force more than what’s really there, but again, bask in those 1-percenters. They’re the key to more. This last part can be a great practice on its own, as long as you’re honest and vulnerable with yourself.
