Our most primal creative force is our sex drive.
But that doesn’t just mean making babies. We can use this physiological urge to enhance our mood, inspire creativity, and attract people and circumstances.
Freud called this diversion of energy sublimation. Napoleon Hill called it the Mystery of Sex Transmutation in his 1937 book, Think and Grow Rich. But this concept goes as far back as the 4th century BC in ancient Taoist practices.
Sex transmutation, or sexual alchemy, is the process of redirecting raw libido for higher purposes.
This process has helped me and many others break through existential issues such as low motivation, lack of direction, and general apathy.
It has helped me and many others overcome psycho-physiological issues like ED, PE, and anxiety.
But even more than that, this process can help you unleash dormant parts of your Self.
Many esoteric traditions teach sex transmutation in a vague way that is hard to put into action. Modern dogmas like NoFap only touch on the surface and miss out on important nuance.
But it doesn’t have to be such a ‘mystery’.
In this article I break down the three stages of sex transmutation so you can understand how to use your libido to fuel the creation of your life.
Stage 1: Preservation
In order to transmute sexual energy, one must have a surplus or energy to transmute.
According to Taoism, we are each born with a large reserve of sexual energy known as jing. This energy is meant for procreation, but can be used for healing the body or transmuted into higher functions.
But the modern man faces far more threats to his vital storehouses than previous generations. We have more temptations to waste our energy than ever before.
Napoleon Hill wrote about sex transmutation almost a century before streamable Internet porn. Tantric and Taoist sexual practices were developed millennia before the plethora of testosterone-killing environmental factors that we live with today.
In his TED Talk, The Demise of Guys, Dr. Philip Zimbardo blames Internet porn for rise in anxiety in modern men.
Movements like NoFap have come to this realization, and preach to guys to stop jerking off.
But if cure by abstinence was that simple, no one would ever have compulsive behaviors or bad habits.
Compulsive behavior happens when a natural reward circuit gets perverted by unnatural means.
For instance, we’re supposed to enjoy sugar because our bodies want us to eat natural sweet foods like berries that are rare but rich in nutrients. Our bodies did not evolve to handle processed sugar which stimulates that reward circuit without the benefits.
Porn and video games are so addicting because they mimic two of the most rewarding experiences of the human male: Love and Adventure.
The problem with porn and video games is that they don’t really exist in the material world. We may trick parts of our nervous system and get a dopamine flood, but other parts of our being recognize that it was fake.
No amount of realism in porn feels quite as satisfying as making love with a real partner. No amount of success in a video game feels quite as good as taking on a real challenge.
Many guys feel lonely after they finish to porn because they got the dopamine (pleasure) that comes with sex, they had no oxytocin (connection) that usually comes with it. This imbalance chemical cocktail can lead to neuroses from anxiety to total delusion.
Your visual cortex might think that you made love or won the battle, but the rest of you knows the truth: You were just sitting on your ass.
This is why to truly master your energy (and therefore master your reality) you must focus on the body…
Stage 2: Stabilization
NoFap is great in getting guys to stop draining their jing (sexual reserve). But it’s short-sighted.
Many dudes who only focus on abstinence end up becoming like ‘dry drunks’– an alcoholic who stopped drinking but still has all the compulsive and impulsive behaviors of a drinker.
They end up white knuckling through life trying to deny their natural impulse. They never learn to harness their drive because they never give it space to settle.
We each have a capacity for sensation. This is our ability to consciously experience feelings in our body without being overwhelmed.
When a guy feels sensation beyond their capacity, something goes awry:
He may harden. His body might become tense and his expression robotic. He may go into his head to try to get a handle on the situation.
He may lose control. His body might literally tremble or stutter. He may do unconscious dramatic things to sabotage his life in order to remove the stress.
He may numb out. He might lose the feeling all together. He may experience apathy in order to avoid feeling discomfort.
The stoic heroes throughout culture were not emotionless. No great man could accomplish anything of value without passion and enthusiasm.
But the reason why we think of masculine heroes as non-expressive is that a great man’s capacity for sensation is a well that runs so deep that it takes an enormous amount of stress for it to show on the surface.
Anyone can increase his capacity for sensation by practicing. Every time you relax and expand in response to stress or arousal (versus contracting), you expand your capacity.
We commonly call this skill grounding. Like emptying excess electrical charge into the ground, grounding your sensations means having a large enough capacity to contain your sensations.
Sexual arousal, in particular, can be moved from the relatively small container of the genitals, out into the entire body. Once arousal is given space to expand, it becomes more stable. (This can translate into lasting longer in bed, but also handling greater stress in life.)
According to Robert Anton Wilson, prolonged arousal stimulates a level of consciousness where one can internally heal the body. Timothy Leary called this the ‘Circuit V’ consciousness.2 This is the goal of esoteric traditions that use sexuality as a vehicle for spirituality.
These arousal control secrets are simple to learn, but do take practice to master. When you do, your raw arousal can be transmuted into higher experiences: expansives emotion (joy) and expansive thought (inspiration).
Which brings us to the final stage…
Stage 3: Penetrative Focus
All pieces of iron are capable of magnetism. The difference between a piece of metal that can attract other pieces one that doesn’t is the alignment of its atoms.
Magnetism, the ability to attract or repel other objects across space, is caused by the movement of electric charge.
The first box shows non-magnetic material. There are no free electrons to move, therefore magnetism is impossible. This is like a guy who depletes his arousal– he is empty.
The middle box shows an unmagnetized piece of iron. There are clusters of atoms with electric charge (known as magnetic domains), but they are all pointed in random directions, so they cancel each other out.
The last box shows a magnetized iron. All the magnetic domains spin in the same direction, creating a singular electric charge. This charge creates a magnetic field which attracts otherwise inert objects to it.
This is what happens when you align your sexual energy into a singular direction. Your being begins to attract people, ideas, and events that you wouldn’t have otherwise.
In social situations, we call this charisma.
In creative pursuits, we call this inspiration.
In life, we call this synchronicity.
If the last bit seems like magical thinking, consider this:
If all sexual cultivation did was fill you with pleasurable physical sensations which enhanced your mood and energy levels…
And all that did was improve your outlook to notice opportunities that your consciousness previously filtered out…
And your enhanced libido gave you the motivation to act on those opportunities…
Then does it matter?
Men who learn arousal control often report “unpredicted good things keep happening”. But I encourage students not to think of them as ‘superpowers’. They are not super and they are not special.
They are your Nature-given right as man to have the ability to positively affect reality. (They only seem ‘super’ because most men have lost it.)
The last stage is the simplest, but can be the most challenging in the age of the smartphone.
In order to use your sexual energy to will life circumstances, you have to focus. You cannot magnetize anything if all of your electric charges are pointing all random directions.
Think of it this way:
We each have a certain number of f*cks to give in a day, a week, a year, and a lifetime
(For our purposes a f*ck = a unit of energy + 
attention.)
You can increase your number of f*cks by not wasting
them. You can carry more f*cks by becoming more grounded.
Quality experiences, be they in intimacy, adventure, business, or intellectual advancement, require a critical volume of f*cks.
If you give a f*ck about every piece of clickbait, nonsense in your social media feed, random messages, eventually you won’t have enough f*cks to create anything of quality.
So get your f*cks in a row.
Pick ONE THING that really matters to you and penetrate it with all the f*cks that you can.
If it’s a big thing, it may take a lot of f*cks before anything noticeable happens. But don’t worry. Once you hit critical volume, something will take form. When it does, it will continue to grow on its own.
Such is the circle of life…
Another funny thing about our magnet analogy: Magnets don’t just attract other pieces of iron. Magnets make other iron magnetic, too.
The presence of a powerful magnet causes the domains within an iron to align, turning the iron into a magnet itself. That previously inert piece of metal can go on to magnetize other irons… and so it goes.
Your pursuit for power, attractiveness, or life mastery may have started as a selfish one.
That’s totally fine. You should have the traits, love, and experiences you desire.
But something truly magical happens when you begin to magnetize the good things in life: You make it easier for others to do the same (even without them realizing it).
Every person you make love to, do business within, become friends with, will get a little more than they bargained for. When you give them the gift of positive energy, they get to pass on the same to others.
But if you deplete your energy with mind-numbing media, resentful thoughts, or wasted action, then you have nothing to give.
The worst kind of man is a weak one. He becomes a burden on society and takes more than he gives.
The most useful kind of man is a potent, vital, and emotional secure (viz: grounded) one. He becomes of benefit to those around him, and moves life forward.
Transmuting your primal drives isn’t just for you. It’s for humanity as a whole.
(But yeah, lasting longer in bed is cool too 😉
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