There are certain qualities that a man can exhibit that are universally attractive to women. Even if a man is not a woman’s particular “type,” if he has cultivated these qualities she will experience “turn-on” when in his presence. This mini-series is a primer to the 8 Qualities that I teach in depth during our live events.
If you’ve missed any of the previous qualities, read those first here:
#1 – Grounding #2 – Tension #3 – Being Decisive #4 – Listening & Feeling
#5 Creating a “Container” #6 Leading #7 Penetrating
Turn-On – What Is It / What Do I Mean
Turn-on is being able to feel and embrace a charge in your body.
Do you feel turned-on when you’re talking to a woman? Do you really feel it in your body?
It isn’t necessarily sexual at all times, but it certainly can be. Arnold Schwarzenegger talks about it in his famous documentary, “Pumping Iron.” He puts it rather bluntly. He says, “I’m cumming all the time.” That would be his mental image or state of mind and a general feeling, not physically ejaculating, mind you. He’s in a state of orgasmic bliss. He’d invoke that feeling when he was lifting in the gym, when he was crossing the street, and yes, probably when he was governing over the entire state of California.
It’s the idea that you are excited and aroused by what you are doing. If you’re with a woman, you’re not afraid to let this energy flow through your body and let her see and feel it, too. You’re attracted to her and you’re experiencing turn-on. It can often work like a mirror where the woman you’re communicating with will, in fact, feel it too and she’ll get turned on. The non-sexual version of this energy is known as enthusiasm and drive.
Why It’s Important
Life can be a long, boring slog, if you allow it to be. The energy of turn-on gets you moving and excited.
If a man is able to bring such a high degree of driven energy to the mundane aspects of his life, how much more passionate would he be when he’s intimate with a beautiful woman? That’s what owning your turn-on in non-sexual situations signals to women.
Humans are wired to latch onto passionate feelings in one another. It’s even more powerful when you’re in a situation where there’s some sexual tension. Not hiding your turn-on creates that much more chemistry to work with. It lets your intentions be known clearly and allows the woman to decide what comes next. Either she’s not interested, or she’ll go right along with you, responding with turn-on (which often can include flirty or giggly embarrassment…you can often make her nervous in a good way, kind of like how you might get a little nervous around her) herself.
How To Do It / Develop It
- Living With Passion
Think about Arnold again. Try to live in passion whenever possible. I’m not telling you to fake it and create excitement where you don’t feel it, but consider how every action you take connects you back to your purpose. If you hate taking the bus to work but you love your job, reframe the experience of the bus with what’s ultimately bringing you fulfillment. This is why Arnold was passionate about even the simplest things like crossing the street. He knew it was part of his path, he authentically felt happy and turned-on just to be alive, and he embraced it all.
2. Own Your Attraction More
Start feeling into your own masculine turn-on more. When you see a really attractive women and you feel that spark of arousal, stay with it. Don’t push it down and suppress it. If you’ve been working the preceding qualities in this series, particularly grounding, you’ll develop the ability to relax more with the intensity of the sensation. The more comfortable you feel, the easier it will be to communicate your turn-on.
Remember, this is a journey that takes time and everyone’s path is unique.
Speaking of your path, if you’ve found this series helpful, you should check out The Fearless Man Live seminar. For two very affordable days, I’ll dive much deeper with you on all these qualities and so much more. The FEARLESS Models will be there to give you their feminine perspective on everything the whole weekend, we’ll have Q&A time with them, and you might even get to do some practice with them and me if you step into the tension of volunteering for the demos I’ll be doing all weekend. We’ll talk confidence, approaching women, flirting, forming deep connections, getting sexual, and a lot more.
We’ll also have a team of some of our advanced clients (“FEARLESS Ambassadors”) to take you out in the evening with all the other like-minded men in the seminar and help you start putting all the teachings into practice right away, with on-the-spot feedback and coaching to help you progress even faster.
The Fearless Man Live is a jam-packed event that will inject rocket-fuel into your path of learning and practice. And it probably costs less than you think.
Hope to see you at an event!
