Top 14 Books for Your Growth, Confidence, and Success as a Man

I’m constantly getting requests for my top personal development, confidence, and masculinity books so here it is. The list isn’t necessarily in order but all 14 are must-reads as they changed me completely at one point or another throughout the years!

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My Top 14 Books for Your Growth as a Man
1. The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson
This should be required reading for everyone in their formal school life. It’s about the power of compounding interest and the 1% rule.  The Slight Edge is always working in your life, even right now as you read this. You’re either on he Slight Edge path towards success or failure, every single moment. Success or failure in anything and everything in life is about the small decisions and very doable, daily habits. Easy to do, but easy not to do. A lot of clients love the audio version that has a special forward by the author.
Get it: Paperback, Hardcover, and Kindle or Audio CD

2. Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David R. Hawkins, M.D. Ph,D
Learning to let go, aka releasing and allowing, is a huge part of what we do in intensives, some of the deepest work there is, a major key to a powerful, happy life, and Hawkins was one of the fathers of it. Every negative belief has an emotion attached to it. This book teaches you how to separate emotions from thoughts. Because when you let go of the emotion, the negative thought or belief no longer has a hold on you. It just floats away.
Get it here.

3. The Way of The Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire by David Deida
Deida’s philosophies around the “Third Stage Man” are very important and I talk about them frequently. This is the man that every woman really wants. He’s an authentic man, with the best of the bad boy and the best of the nice guy – a bad boy with a heart.
Get it here.

4. No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex, and Life by Dr. Robert A. Glover
Codependency is a huge plague in our society today, and “Nice Guy Syndrome” is an extremely common form of it. If my using the words, “Nice Guy Syndrome,” pisses you off, then you definitely need to read this book. Pretty much everyone I tell to read it comes back to me and is shocked how much it hits home. I get clients all across the board, but nice guys are the most common…and even many of the men we work with who might appear to be far from your typical nice guys actually have nice-guy running underneath the surface. Nice guys are your “Second Stage Man” when you look at Deida’s masculinity model. If you’ve ever been told you’re “too nice,” or “such a nice guy” in the form of rejection, or if getting friend zoned is common for you, read this book. Same for if your relationship history has been a rocky one.
Get it here.

5. Losing My Virginity: How I Survived, Had Fun, and Made a Fortune Doing Business My Way by Richard Branson
I love Branson for a lot of reasons. One of them is his find-a-way creativity and persistence. He started his first business at 15 years old selling ads for a magazine he started by gaming the old payphone system so it sounded like he had a professional secretary placing the calls. Now he owns his own island. You get to see how he was raised to step into tension and risk, all the success he’s created from that relationship to tension, and how now it’s almost scarier for him not to take risks. Risk for him is fun and excitement.
Get it here.

6. The Alabaster Girl by Zan Perrion
Zan’s a good friend of mine and someone I’ve learned a lot from…and continue to in both our personal time together and in the videos we shoot for you when I’m in Bucharest, where he lives. I love this book because it’s not a “how to” book – it’s a book where you learn from and absorb the spirit and beingness of Zan in his fictional conversations about women with a woman. It creates the feeling and the emotional sense of what it’s like to be a seducer. Zan is all about loving women, and fostering genuine appreciation and love for them can be a game-changing piece of the puzzle.
Get it here.

7. Feeling is the Secret by Neville Goddard
This is a really powerful, old-school lesson in how to use your imagination and thoughts to create your reality. It’s a short book you can listen to over and over again until it becomes part of who you are.
Get it here. Or Special edition with bonus lectures

8. The Man Who Tapped The Secrets of The Universe by Glenn Clark
This one’s about the life of Walter Russell. He was an incredible man – one of the most successful men of the 20th century, in my opinion. Tesla revered him. I think he never really got famous (compared to others who accomplished less) because there was no big drama in his life or his personality – his life just worked. He was a musician, illustrator, portrait painter, architectural designer, sculptor, business adviser to IBM, champion figure skater, scientist, philosopher, and author of Five Personal Laws of Success. This book is about him and how he tapped the secrets of the universe and success.
Get it here.

9. The Man Who Talks with The Flowers: The Intimate Life Story of Dr. George Washington Carver by Glenn Clark
Where Walter Russell embodied the masculine energies, Carver is a great example of a man accessing his feminine – heart and depth of feeling and emotion. Elected into the Hall of Fame of Great Americans, and being called a “black Leonardo” by Time Magazine, Carver, a botanist was another fascinating man you can learn a lot from about life and success. “Anything will give up its secrets if you love it enough,” Carver once said. “Not only have I found that when I talk to the little flower or to the little peanut they will give up their secrets, but I have found that when I silently commune with people they give up their secrets also – if you love them enough.”
Get it here.

10. I Am That by Nisargadatta Maharaj
This is a collection of teachings by a great Indian sage. It’s all about going deep with important consciousness questions like “Who am I?,” presence, observing your own mind, and letting go of false, limiting identities. It’s in the format of conversations with his followers.
Get it here.

11. Happiness is Free: And It’s Easier Than You Think! by Hale Dwoskin (and Lester Levenson)
Along with Hawkins, Lester and Hale are also extremely important in the world of releasing. Lester was Hale’s mentor. Lester’s philosophy and his “top goal” on his chart of emotions was that the highest state of being is imperturbability – complete and total emotional freedom, happiness that is incapable of really being affected because of your freedom from attachments. That’s what this book is about. The more you read it, the lighter and better you feel, and the more success you can create.
Get it here.

12. The Holographic Universe: The Revolutionary Theory of Reality by Michael Talbot
This is about how it’s possible the universe could be just a hologram and how nothing is really real. When you start to see the world through this model, you start to see endless possibilities, and the book cites a lot of amazing things in the world to try to prove that. It primes the brain to start to see endless possibilities.
Get it here.

13. God Works Through Faith by Robert A. Russell
Stay with me for a second if you’re non-religious or entirely an atheist! That’s fine. I’ve had atheist and agnostic clients replace the word “God” with things like “Universe,” or “life,” and find a ton of value to their lives in this book. It’s whatever works for you and your beliefs. Faith is the all-important part, and that faith again can be in any number of things, including yourself. This book is written  in a way that’s digestible for everyone if you don’t get too caught up on the idea of “God.” Faith, again, in something is such a powerful force. Read or listen to this book in small doses and meditate on its ideas, even individual sentences.
Get the paperback here. If audio is more your thing, one of my clients found the YouTube playlist here.

14. FEARLESS with Women by…me, and a former business partner.
Yes, a plug for my ebook. Give it a glance here if you haven’t already.

Happy reading, listening, and growth!