Why do women reject nervous guys? Being nervous itself isn’t actually the primary reason women reject men – the rejections come from men hiding or being owned by their nervousness. Learn to own your nervousness & you can go from getting rejected to attracting women in a TRULY confident, powerful way.
Editor’s Note: This post was originally published in June 2016. The post has been edited while the video is in its originally published form.
As Yazz and Brian talk about in the video, nervousness is unattractive when it overcomes you and is bigger than you. When it makes you behave with a bunch of doubt or hesitation vs behaving and talking with commitment even while you’re nervous. Trying to snake around what you want – for example, the guy Yazz told the story about who latched on to the fact that she was a dance instructor as an easy “in” to get to know her instead of being upfront and direct with her about what he really wanted: to get to know her or take her out.
When you’re trying to hide your nervousness – consciously or subconsciously – that’s unattractive, because you’re not being authentic.
And when you shrink in the fear and nervousness vs truly showing up in it, there’s little for a woman to get attracted to.
On the other hand, when you learn to start enjoying the nervousness and fear at some level…and enjoying her (That’s why you’re talking to her, right!? Try to enjoy the beautiful woman in front of you and the reasons you’re approaching her.), the nervousness stops hurting you so much and starts to become attractive and charming. Remember, fear can be fun – think skydiving and extreme sports, thrillers and horror movies, haunted houses, driving fast, etc – and you can start to find some fun in your fear and nervousness around women, too.
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