In this video, Brian talks about his own pent up frustration after years of studying and practicing different methods for how to get good with women, what was really going on, and how you can apply what he learned the hard, slow way to grow faster.
After years of studying and practicing “pickup artist” training and other dating advice and seduction material, Brian still wasn’t making much progress. It seemed like the harder he tried, the less he succeeded. And when it did work, it was just all so much effort.
But then he realized that his friends who were naturals with women weren’t doing all this “stuff.” They were just open, real, and free with women.
But, as we’ve discussed recently on the blog, just “being yourself,” doesn’t work for most guys…unless they’re already there, doing that, being confident and charming with women.
So Brian started asking himself and exploring why “being yourself” was working for these friends of his, but not him. And he ventured outside the dating coaching community, seeking out teachers who taught things like being more present, getting out of your head and into a more conscious relationship with your body, understanding and processing emotions, and feeling.
And Brian then realized that he had been such an analytical guy with so much nice guy syndrome running that he’d been trying to seduce women analytically. That’s just not going to work. Women want to FEEL something from you – not be talked into the reasons they should sleep with you.
So as you watch the video, ask yourself:
(1) What is it that you are doing that’s pushing women away?
(2) How do you self-reject?
(3) How do women experience you?
You’ll be surprised how such simple things make such a difference once you see that it’s not about attracting women, but rather what’s preventing your natural ability to attract the feminine.
